Tuesday, July 19, 2011

" Sweet Home "





“Arjun, why are u doing like this, we are dependent on you. You should take care of us in future but you are so irresponsible, please try to be matured Arjun”         sobbed his mother sharadha
Arjun s dad came to comfort shardha and sat next to her, and continued
“She is right da kanna, we are all worried of you, and you must not make us feel sad about you, see your mom is crying from morning,
At least now say to your mom that hereafter I will not throw my shoes here and there.”
 Come on say arjun”
Arjun replied in his tender voice
“Ma, don’t cry I will not throw my shoes hereafter, I also promise you that I will behave maturely”
Those were the words of a 6 year old arjun.
Arjun is the only son of sharadha and ram, since he is the only son, they are so affectionate to arjun, and they expect him to behave out of his age and poor arjun has no other option but to do as his parents say.
Every child that is born to a parent is special, it’s even more special if it’s their first kid, arjun was of that kind, and he was born to ram and Mrs. Ram after a long wait, so he is always given an extra care.
There are two kinds of parents in this world
1st category of parents:  treat their children’s as kids even after they grow up. Here sufferers are the kids; they fail to get recognition from the family. Their words will never be given importance and hence there forth they lose interest in the happenings of a family and tend to stay away from family matters.
2nd category of parents: they expect a lot from their kids ignoring the fact that kids are meant to be kids and it will take time for them to realize what they need to do. In this case also sufferers are kids; they get into confusion on what to do and what not, this eventually end up in spoiling their colorful childhood.
When a child is born to a couple, a parent is also born but the growth of a parent has to be same as with the growth of a kid, else the kid will be in trouble.
Our hero arjun belongs to the second category of parents; his parents just know one type of emotion that is “EXTREME”
Either its extreme love or extreme anger.
Arjun, said “I still remember what my mother told when I was born, she told to my dad that he is special to us and everything around him has to be special.”
 HOLD ON ….HOLD ON……
You say you were just born then how can you still remember what your mom said to you?  Said arjun s girl friend priya.
 “People say that babies get information from their mom when we are in mother’s womb, so it’s also possible to hear what my mom says after I was born also “replied arjun.
“This is too much dear “
“You asked me to describe about my parents, so I am sincerely narrating the story from first, if you mock at me I will not continue,”
Arjun tried to get up and move away from priya, priya held his hand and said
“No, no, I will not question you hereafter, you continue dear let me hear about my in-laws, fingers on my lips is that ok for you now?”
“That’s good, so as I said I was special for my parents, every time I cry and disturb their sleep, they never complain, both will take turns and try different tricks to stop my cry. The moment I stop crying both used to fight in deciding whose trick worked.”
“Arjun, tell me this who do you resemble the most, mom or dad? “Priya asked
“Well, I resemble both of them”
“ not that arjun , have you noticed , though we have been brought up by both our parents , we take the characteristics of only one parent, have you noticed mithun of our class  , he has a habit of rubbing his nose after a glass of water , he has acquired it from his father, like wise what characteristic have you inherited” priya  enquired.
“Well dear, that’s where you are wrong; I acquire all characteristics equally because I have got equal participation from both of them in all activities of my life”
“Take for example my swimming class, when I was a kid I joined for a swimming class, not only did my parents come for dropping me, they also swam with me.”
“Then during my exams my mom would help me in studies and dad would prepare milk and serve us both.”
“Each day when I got ready for my school, my mom would comb my hair and my dad would polish my shoes, so l have had equal participation of my parents in all things”
“Hey! Your father will do all these things? , normally it’s said guys are close to mom and have respect to dad”
“Well I have not felt that way, all that I say to my mom is said to dad also da”
“Arjun, you are lucky dear, baby will your mom like me?”
Arjun placed his hand on priyas shoulder and brought her close and said
“Hey! Don’t worry da, they will love you, the moment she sees you, she would say that you are her daughter-in law,
 now get up lets go, I told my mom we will be at home by 12”.
As Arjun got up to start his bike, priya sat there lost in her thoughts, she is going to meet arjuns parents for the first time, so she is very nervous, she had a problem which she cannot say and make arjun understand.
The problem is that , love and mother always don’t go well, they see the new gal as a replacement of  MOTHER  in their sons life ,  in Arjuns case since he is close to both of them , there is a possibility that priya would be portrayed as villain in both his parents minds.

“Baby, we are getting late come on “arjun called.
“Yeah, coming sweet heart”.
Both moved to his house, with priya sitting at the back and saying her prayers.
They reached home very soon, now all four were sitting in hall. Mom and dad were watching priya constantly; finally someone needs to break the silence so dad took the initiative 
“Hmm, it just seems like I have just changed his diaper, now he has grown up and started making his decision.”  Dad said innocently.
“Dad, will you stop embarrassing me “arjun said
“Oh, sorry I should not have said it, it spoils your image right”
“Don’t worry priya, dad is always like that, he doesn’t know what to talk just relax and make yourself comfortable.” Arjuns mom said.

“Ok mom, you guys talk I will take a shower and come.” saying this arjun left the place.
Priya tried to hold his hand and make him sit near her but she was scared to hold his hand in front of his parents.
With arjun leaving the place, priya became nervous, she felt that his mom was having a magnifying glass in her hand and watching her.
“Just feel at home, priya” dad told.
Arjuns mom sat next to her and said    “you look pretty in your outfit”         
“Thanx aunty”
“Arjun always speaks a lot about you. Since you came in his life, all talks have been related only to you in this home.” Mom said.
“Aunty, arjun has told lot of things about you to me also. You have brought up your son very well; he is a gem in my life”.
On hearing this dad got excited and came forward and said,
“Is it, what has he said about me?”
“He would have said my dad is crazy and does not know what to talk, am I right priya?”Mom asked.
“No, aunty he keeps both of you in high regards, when he talks about you he has a glow in his face.”
“What do you like to have priya, coffee or tea? “Mom enquired.
“Its ok aunty “priya replied modestly.
“No, you have come to our home for the first time, so you should have something, I will make coffee for you.” Saying this mom left to kitchen.
Dad was sitting next to her, when he was about to start conversation with priya, priya noticed some movements at the corner of her eyes. It was mom who was signaling to dad asking him to come to kitchen.
Dad just got up with the permission of priya and made his way to kitchen.
Priya was left in lot of thoughts, why did she call dad inside, what does she has to say to dad? ,
Didn’t they like me?
Priyas felt that her logic about mothers and love was true, maybe she felt I am gonna replace her place in arjun’s life, to which she is not comfortable.
Priya was biting her nails in nervousness, she told to herself
even if his mom doesn’t like me , I will talk to arjun and ask him to  marry me, if he doesn’t agree I will threaten him saying I would end my life , then he would oblige to me , once married me and arjun and can live separately that can solve my problem. Arjun is more important in my life; I can’t afford to lose him.
Priya was already getting prepared on what to talk to arjun.
Dad entered the kitchen, sharadha was preparing coffee, and he stood behind her and asked
“What’s the matter? Why did you call me now?”
Mom started talking in a low voice
“How is it going? Am I talking good? , did I give any impression that I am a strict mother-in law?”
“Oh, come on dear you are doing good, now don’t worry come and serve coffee to her, if we leave her alone she will think bad of us.”
“It’s not that honey, what if she thinks that I am in the thought that  new gal is going to replace my place in arjuns heart and behave indifferently to us,
Then problems will come and they will stay away from us, and later they will not show our grand children’s to us, we will lose arjun, and I can’t bear that separation dear.”
“ stop , this nonsense sharadha, it’s not like our generation , this new generation is open to all , they don’t have any such cheap thoughts , nothing of that sort will happen come lets serve her coffee .”
 Sharadha wiped her tears and went to hall, sat near priya and served her coffee.
As priya sipped her coffee arjun entered the hall with two shirts in his hand
“Which shirt should I wear blue or black? “

BLUE     Mom and priya said in unison.
 Mom looked into priyas eyes both exchanged smiles.
“Seems like my wife and my daughter-in law have same tastes” dad mocked.
 Now arjun and dad smiled, arjun said 
“Ok I will get ready soon; we will go out and have lunch.”


NO MOTHER THINKS THAT HER PLACE IS BEING OCCUPIED BY SOMEONE, SHE KNOWS THAT NO ONE CAN REPLACE HER, THE THING SHE WORRIES THE MOST IS THAT HIS SON SHOULD NOT BE MADE TO MISS THE PRESENCE OF A MOTHER”.


Thursday, September 16, 2010

THE GIRL WRITING AS HERSELF....





It was probably the April of 1974. Bangalore was getting warm and gulmohars were blooming at the IISc campus. I was the only girl in my postgraduate department and was staying at the ladies' hostel. Other girls were pursuing research in different departments of Science. I was looking forward to going abroad to complete a doctorate in computer science. I had been offered scholarships from Universities in the US... I had not thought of taking up a job in India. 

One day, while on the way to my hostel from our lecture-hall complex, I saw an advertisement on the notice board. It was a standard job-requirement notice from the famous automobile company Telco (now Tata Motors)... It stated that the company required young, bright engineers, hardworking and with an excellent academic background, etc. 

At the bottom was a small line: 'Lady Candidates need not apply.' I read it and was very upset. For the first time in my life I was up against gender discrimination. 

Though I was not keen on taking up the job, I saw it as a challenge. I had done extremely well in academics, better than most of my male peers... Little did I know then that in real life academic excellence is not enough to be successful? 

After reading the notice I went fuming to my room. I decided to inform the topmost person in Telco's management about the injustice the company was perpetrating. I got a postcard and started to write, but there was a problem: I did not know who headed Telco 

I thought it must be one of the Tatas. I knew JRD Tata was the head of the Tata Group; I had seen his pictures in newspapers (actually, Sumant Moolgaokar was the company's chairman then) I took the card, addressed it to JRD and started writing. To this day I remember clearly what I wrote. 'The great Tatas have always been pioneers. They are the people who started the basic infrastructure industries in India, such as iron and steel, chemicals, textiles and locomotives they have cared for higher education in India since 1900 and they were responsible for the establishment of the Indian Institute of Science. Fortunately, I study there. But I am surprised how a company such as Telco is discriminating on the basis of gender.' 

I posted the letter and forgot about it. Less than 10 days later, I received a telegram stating that I had to appear for an interview at Telco's Pune facility at the company's expense. I was taken aback by the telegram. My hostel mate told me I should use the opportunity to go to Pune free of cost and buy them the famous Pune saris for cheap! I collected Rs30 each from everyone who wanted a sari when I look back, I feel like laughing at the reasons for my going, but back then they seemed good enough to make the trip. 

It was my first visit to Pune and I immediately fell in love with the city. 

To this day it remains dear to me. I feel as much at home in Pune as I do in Hubli, my hometown. The place changed my life in so many ways. As directed, I went to Telco's Pimpri office for the interview. 

There were six people on the panel and I realized then that this was serious business. 

'This is the girl who wrote to JRD,' I heard somebody whisper as soon as I entered the room. By then I knew for sure that I would not get the job. The realization abolished all fear from my mind, so I was rather cool while the interview was being conducted. 

Even before the interview started, I reckoned the panel was biased, so I told them, rather impolitely, 'I hope this is only a technical interview.' 

They were taken aback by my rudeness, and even today I am ashamed about my attitude. <span> </span><span>The panel asked me technical questions and I answered all of them.  </span>

Then an elderly gentleman with an affectionate voice told me, 'Do you know why we said lady candidates need not apply? The reason is that we have never employed any ladies on the shop floor. This is not a co-ed college; this is a factory. When it comes to academics, you are a first ranker throughout. We appreciate that, but people like you should work in research laboratories. 

I was a young girl from small-town Hubli. My world had been a limited place. 

I did not know the ways of large corporate houses and their difficulties, so I answered, 'But you must start somewhere, otherwise no woman will ever be able to work in your factories.' 

Finally, after a long interview, I was told I had been successful. So this was what the future had in store for me. Never had I thought I would take up a job in Pune. I met a shy young man from Karnataka there, we became good friends and we got married. 

It was only after joining Telco that I realized who JRD was: the uncrowned king of Indian industry. Now I was scared, but I did not get to meet him till I was transferred to Bombay. One day I had to show some reports to Mr Moolgaokar, our chairman, who we all knew as SM. I was in his office on the first floor of Bombay House (the Tata headquarters) when, suddenly JRD walked in. That was the first time I saw 'appro JRD'. Appro means 'our' in Gujarati. This was the affectionate term by which people at Bombay House called him. <span>I was feeling very nervous, remembering my postcard episode. SM introduced me nicely, 'Jeh (that's what his close associates called him), this young woman is an engineer and that too a postgraduate. 

She is the first woman to work on the Telco shop floor.' JRD looked at me. I was praying he would not ask me any questions about my interview (or the postcard that preceded it). 

Thankfully, he didn't. Instead, he remarked. 'It is nice that girls are getting into engineering in our country. By the way, what is your name?' 

'When I joined Telco I was Sudha Kulkarni, Sir,' I replied. 'Now I am Sudha Murthy.' He smiled and kindly smile and started a discussion with SM. As for me, I almost ran out of the room. 

After that I used to see JRD on and off. He was the Tata Group chairman and I was merely an engineer. There was nothing that we had in common. I was in awe of him. 

One day I was waiting for Murthy, my husband, to pick me up after office hours. To my surprise I saw JRD standing next to me. I did not know how to react. Yet again I started worrying about that postcard. Looking back, I realize JRD had forgotten about it. It must have been a small incident for him, but not so for me. 

'Young lady, why are you here?' he asked. 'Office time is over.' I said, 'Sir, I'm waiting for my husband to come and pick me up.' JRD said, 'It is getting dark and there's no one in the corridor. 

I'll wait with you till your husband comes.' 

I was quite used to waiting for Murthy, but having JRD waiting alongside made me extremely uncomfortable. 

I was nervous. Out of the corner of my eye I looked at him. He wore a simple white pant and shirt. He was old, yet his face was glowing. There wasn't any air of superiority about him. I was thinking, 'Look at this person. He is a chairman, a well-respected man in our country and he is waiting for the sake of an ordinary employee.' 

Then I saw Murthy and I rushed out. JRD called and said, 'Young lady, tell your husband never to make his wife wait again.' In 1982 I had to resign from my job at Telco. I was reluctant to go, but I really did not have a choice. I was coming down the steps of Bombay House after wrapping up my final settlement when I saw JRD coming up. He was absorbed in thought. I wanted to say goodbye to him, so I stopped. He saw me and paused. 

Gently, he said, 'So what are you doing, Mrs. Kulkarni?' (That was the way he always addressed me.) 'Sir, I am leaving Telco.' 

'Where are you going?' he asked. 'Pune, Sir. My husband is starting a company called Infosys and I'm shifting to Pune.' 

'Oh! And what will you do when you are successful.' 

'Sir, I don't know whether we will be successful.' 'Never start with diffidence,' he advised me </span><span>'Always start with confidence. When you are successful you must give back to society. Society gives us so much; we must reciprocate. Wish you all the best.' 

Then JRD continued walking up the stairs. I stood there for what seemed like a millennium. That was the last time I saw him alive. 

Many years later I met Ratan Tata in the same Bombay House, occupying the chair JRD once did. I told him of my many sweet memories of working with Telco. Later, he wrote to me, 'It was nice hearing about Jeh from you. The sad part is that he's not alive to see you today.' 

I consider JRD a great man because, despite being an extremely busy person, he valued one postcard written by a young girl seeking justice. He must have received thousands of letters everyday. He could have thrown mine away, but he didn't do that. He respected the intentions of that unknown girl, who had neither influence nor money, and gave her an opportunity in his company. He did not merely give her a job; he changed her life and mindset forever. 

Close to 50 per cent of the students in today's engineering colleges are girls. And there are women on the shop floor in many industry segments. I see these changes and I think of JRD. If at all time stops and asks me what I want from life, I would say I wish JRD were alive today to see how the company we started has grown. He would have enjoyed it wholeheartedly.

My love and respect for the House of Tata remains undiminished by the passage of time. I always looked up to JRD. I saw him as a role model for his simplicity, his generosity, his kindness and the care he took of his employees. Those blue eyes always reminded me of the sky; they had the same vastness and magnificence. (Sudha Murthy is a widely published writer and chairperson of the Infosys Foundation involved in a number of social development initiatives. Infosys chairman Narayana Murthy is her husband.) 

Sunday, August 8, 2010

" marriage is abt understanding , not abt under estimating"




If U're in a relationship, married or none, read this. U'll know why at the end.

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!



With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.


She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage.

Friday, June 25, 2010

"SECOND CHANCE"


“They all were looking at me on the bed.
I went back to my bedroom.
“Am I dead??” I asked myself.
Where are my wife, my children, my mom-dad and friends?
I found them in the next room, all of them were crying… still trying to console each other.
My wife was crying… she was really looking sad.
My little kid was not sure what happened, but he was crying just coz his mom was sad.
How can I go without telling my kid that I really love him, I really do care for him. ??
How can I go without telling my wife that she is really most beautiful and most caring wife in this world..??
How can I go without telling my parents that I m … just because of you??
How can I go without telling my friends that without them perhaps I would have done most of the wrong things in my life… thanks for being there always when I need them… and sorry for not being there when they really need me..
I can see a person standing in the corner and trying to hide his tears…
Ohh… he was once my best friend, but a small misunderstanding made us part, and we both have strong enough egos that kept us disconnected.
I went there.. And offered him my hand, “Dear friend…
I just want to say sorry for everything, we r still best friends, please forgive me.”
No response from the other side, what the hell?? He is still preserving his ego, I am saying sorry… even then!!!
I really don’t care for such people.
But one sec…. it seems he is not able to see me!!!! He did not see my extended hand.
My goodness… AM I REALLY DEAD???
I just sat down near ME; I also wanted to cry.
“OHH ALMIGHTY!!!! PLEASE JUST GIVE ME FEW MORE DAYS…”
I just wasn’t to make my wife, my parents; my friends realize how much I love them.
My wife entered in the room, she looks beautiful.
“YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL” I shouted.
She didn’t hear my words, in fact she never heard these words coz I never said this to her.
“GOD!!!!” I screamed… a little more time plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. .
I cried…
One more chance please… to hug my child, to make my mom smile just once, to make my dad proud of me at least for a moment, to say sorry to my friends for everything I have not given them, and to thank them for still being in my life….
Then I looked up and cried!!!!
I shouted….
“GOD!!!! ONE MORE CHANCE PLEASE!!!!”
“You shouted in your sleep,” said my wife as she gently woke me up. “Did you have a nightmare?”
I was sleeping….
Ohh that was just a dream….
My wife was there… she can hear me…
This is the happiest moment of my life…
I hugged her and whispered… .. “U R THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND CARING WIFE IN THIS UNIVERSE…. I REALLY LOVE U DEAR”
I can’t understand the reason of the smile on her face with some tears in her eyes, still I ‘m happy….
“THANK YOU GOD FOR THIS “SECOND CHANCE.” ”
MORAL: We cannot start again with “love all “as like Tennis Match; it’s our life match..
SO, Now its not late.. let’s forget Egos, Past… and Express love to others… Be friendly… Keep smiling… forever….
We may not get another chance…..???

Friday, February 12, 2010

" making mistakes is human ,but forgiveness is divine"


A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter.

The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its color and drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.

When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just five words.


QUESTIONS
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1. What were the five words?
2. What is the implication of this story?
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The husband just said "I am with you Darling"

The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behavior.
The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother.
Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.
No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.

If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. "
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
Take off all your envies, jealousies, , selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

MORAL OF THE STORY
This story is really worth reading. ..... Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this way we miss out something

Saturday, December 26, 2009



 ITS THE HEART WHICH  CONTROL US NOT THE BRAIN



It was a Sports Stadium.

Eight Children were standing on the track to participate in a running
event.

* Ready! * Steady! * Bang !!!

With the sound of Toy pistol,

All eight girls started running.

Hardly had they covered ten to fifteen steps,

when one of the smaller girls slipped and fell down,

Due to bruises and pain she started crying.

When the other seven girls heard the little girl cry they stopped
running, stood for a while and turned back.

Seeing the girl on the track they all ran to help.

One among them bent down, picked her up and kissed her gently

And enquired as to how she was..

They then lifted the fallen girl pacifying her.



Two of them held her firmly while all seven joined hands together and
walked together towards the winning post........ ..

There was pin drop silence at the spectator's stand.

Officials were shocked.

Slow claps multiplied to thousands as the spectators stood up in
appreciation.

Many eyes were filled with tears

And perhaps even God's!

YES.!! This happened in Hyderabad [INDIA], recently!

The sport was conducted by
National Institute of Mental Health.

All these special girls had come to participate in this event

They were spastic children.

Yes, they were Mentally Challenged.

What did they teach the WORLD.?

Teamwork.?

Humanity?

Equality among all.??

Successful people help others who are
slow in learning

So that they are not left far behind.

This is really a great message... Spread it.!

We never do this because we have brains !!!!





Friday, December 18, 2009






SUCCESS OF MARRIAGE



Once upon a time a married couple celebrated their 25th marriage anniversary. They had become famous in the city for not having a single conflict in their period of 25 years. Local newspaper editors had gathered at the occasion to find out the secret of their well known 'happy going marriage'.
Editor: "Sir. It's amazingly unbelievable. How did you make this possible?"
Husband recalling his old honeymoon days said:  "We had been to Simla for honeymoon after marriage. Having selected the horse riding finally, we both started the ride on different horses. My horse was pretty okay but the horse on which my wife was riding seemed to be a crazy one.
On the way ahead, that horse jumped suddenly, making my wife topple over..
Recovering her position from the ground, she patted the horse's back and said "This is your first time". She again climbed the horse and continued with the ride. After a while, it happened again. This time she again kept calm and said "This is your second time" and continued. When the horse dropped her third time, she silently took out the revolver from the purse and shot the horse dead!!
I shouted at my wife: "What did you do you psycho. You killed the poor animal. Are you crazy?"
She gave a silent look and said: "This is your first time!!!"
Husband: "That's it. We’ve been living